Everyone that ever lusted after someone, pursue someone or just don't know how to treat girl/guy this is for! Now I know I'm not a specialist in the field but, I know somethings. I know guys use weird "codes" when they: want you, love you, want you to fuck off, need their space or just flat out not interested. To be honest at one point in my life I was womanizer, man-eater whatever you want to brand it.
About three years ago maybe longer, I was a player (yes, I was and I was the best) I'd lure guys in then if they weren't to my likings I'd find another and use some useless line like "it's not you it's me" or "you might make someone else happy just not me. I wish you the best and I hope you find that girl for you" (bogus, I know but when you are charming and charismatic you can use any bogus line to let someone down easy). But for some reason a year later (or something like that) I became a lesbian. Yeah, I was a female liking "woohoo" licking lesbian (sue me). So, I have a pretty general understanding of what guys do to get girls and vice versa.
In addition, I had few girlfriends and the ones I did have I've known since grade school. So, I hang around a number of guys that in time inducted me as one of the guys. I learned the smooth lines, the sweet talk and sly dime-a-dozen cheap game. For example, when guys say "I wanna get to know you" (red flag!) as my best friend and war vet. says "to be honest, when I say that I just want the cheeks (basically, he wants to fuck). My best friend (I call him) was in the air force for two years and is now a successful accountant. You would think a guy like him would be living a more gallant lifestyle. Anywho, he is infamous for wrapping these poor (not too bright) girls around his finger. He knew how to woo a lady and how to get her caught up in the game of love (or sex in his case). He said all the right things and was a smooth operator.
Naturally, any guy would look up to him and say "I wanna be like him!". But, before his fast pace life as a notorious heartbreaker, he was a lover. He was involved with a girl for about three years. Boy, he loved her like a rich man loved gold. He says the reason he is like this now I because he was chained down for so long he wanted to be free and do things he couldn't with her.
The reason I gave you that long (terribly long) backstory because he was the insightful guy that opened my eyes to what guys really think. To be honest, guys are very strategic if you ask me. Men plot and ploy to get certain things. Yes, some men aren't as clever at achieving such feats but they are cunning. Most guys plans aren't as cynical or vindictive but they plan to do certain things they find important. They might try to use the sweet approach: when every thing they say makes you melt. The bad-ass approach, because lets face it girls love a bad boy. The "unavailable" approach: things are that much irresistible when you know you can't have them. My personally favorite, the "slightly screwed up" approach.
I know it sounds dumb, but in all actuality do we play these games hoping or knowing we'll get the desired end product?
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